So, this post is as much for me as it is for anyone else who reads it.
Last year’s 100 lb weight loss journey was awesome in its successes and its pitfalls. But then I got lazy…or rather, perhaps a bit scared. When I started, one of the first things I said to my friends and my trainer (and I’ve said it here too) was that I wanted to avoid having folds of skin.
Now, my trainer kinda laughed at me and told me those folds of skin would be worth the increase in health and vitality I’d have. All true. Then she promptly sent me a photo of a ripped stud of a man who’d gone on his own weight loss/body transformation journey. His results were incredible;… however, his nipples hung a good 3 inches south of where they were supposed to be.
😨😰😱 I died a little.
Ok, vanity is a problem for me. I’m clear on that. I want my cake and to eat it too. Which, isn’t always possible. I was a cute fat guy. Sure, I was miserable but I was CUTE!
So then, when October 2018 hit, as I was taking stock of how my body was changing after 6 months of strict keto + 3 days/week of strength training I saw them…the dreaded folds were starting. They weren’t bad, mind you and many people would look right past them but to my hypercritical eye they might as well have been hanging off of me like giant bat wings. 👀 🦇 👀
And so, I did what any vainglorious gay man would do…I started eating again.
It was the wrong move. I know it now. I knew it then. But it is what it is. So then, the problem was that my attitude about my health was good, but only insofar as it improved my looks. In other words, my pursuit of fitness was only really guided by my desire for a beach body.
AND THAT’S NOT HEALTHY.
All hail to the folks who never allowed their bodies to become morbidly obese in the first place!
There is a price we have to pay, those of us who lived to eat and later decided to live to LIVE. It’s a just sacrifice. Stretch marks are battle scars and I suppose so are skin folds too. Surgery is an option but far too few can afford it. So we have to make peace with our bodies. (And this is true regardless of whether or not your dealing with folds or stretch marks.)
So, how to have a better attitude about your health?
Well, if your problem is vanity, 👋🏼 you get over yourself.
If your problem is laziness, get over yourself. 👋🏼
A gym-sis of mine wears a tank top in the gym that says just that. When I first saw her wear it I remember taking it just a little bit personally. LoL Of course, I knew it wasn’t about me at all but it’s an apt message. And I’m a firm believer that anything that gives you that feeling is a message from the universe to you. I love seeing her wear that tank top now because it’s such a great reminder: Get over yourself. We’re all in the gym for the same reason. To lift better, do better, be better.
Get over yourself, Josh.
If I could make 370 lbs cute I can sure as hell make whatever folds of skin that might come along cute too!
So, I’m re-dedicating myself right now. No more eating crap. My nutrition will be better so I can be better. I will fast so my skin can tighten. I will eat better so my workouts will be better so that my gains are better because I’m worth it.
And so are YOU.
If you’re on a weight loss/body transformation journey from morbid obesity-you must have realistic expectations about your body as it changes. You can’t be in this for a Sports Illustrated cover model body because 9 times out of 10, that won’t happen for you…but it’s still worth the effort.
If you’re young then you might have a good shot but if you’re older, like me, you must be realistic. Your skin has lost elasticity. It’s lost collagen. It’s never gonna look as good or as tight as it did when you were 18.
Get over yourself and do the damn thing.
You’re worth it.