Here’s a listacle for you.
10. You will have set backs. Those are to be expected.
Set backs are normal. When you’re trying to change something as deeply ingrained as maladaptive food behaviors, you’re bound to have moments of regression. Don’t beat yourself up over them! They’re simply the old you bubbling up to say, “Hey, remember how good this made us feel?”
If you’re lucky enough to catch the impulse before you chow down on a box of cookies you can reply, “Yes, but did it really?” If you don’t catch it though (and it’s ok if you don’t) turn the binge into a light snack and reaffirm your commitment to eating more healthy.
9. Weight loss is a journey, not a destination.
Sure, you may have an “end goal” in mind when you start but let me tell you that your goal weight is not nearly as important as the next pound you’ll loose. Matter of fact, I encourage you to get rid of your “goal weight” all together and instead focus on a “goal body.” This, for a few reasons:
- The goal weight you have in mind will not, in reality, look anything like it does in your head. Your goal body may be lighter or heavier than your “goal weight.”
- Freeing yourself from that pressure will allow you to enjoy the fitness process for what it is as opposed to it being a laborious means to an end.
8. Listen to your body.
Your body talks to you. Listen to it. As you embark on your fitness journey you’re going to put your body through motions etc. that it simply isn’t accustomed to. Matter of fact, being overweight causes us to be more tight, and way less flexible so things are gonna hurt. You’ll learn the difference between “hurt” pain and “gymburn.”
That’s not an excuse to not do the work but it does give you some leeway to take it easy at first…especially if you fall into the morbidly obese category.
7. Weight loss does not make you happy.
- If only I looked like ___” I’d be happy.
- If only I had six pack abs I’d be happy.
Wrong! I hate to tell you but if you’re not happy now you won’t be happy then. Whether that means you loose 10 lbs or 1000. Happiness is something we claim/create/choose now because “now” is the only moment that exists. The same is true of peace, or love. If you’re setting conditions on your happiness you’re living in the future and are completely blind to the miracle of now. Be present 100%.
6. I am my only competition.
When I started my journey and especially my weight training journey, I was particularly bad about comparing myself against other people in the gym. I’m competitive by nature so I thought the comparisons were apropos; however, they only left me feeling inadequate. Your journey is about YOU! Others may walk alongside you on your journey but they will eventually detour off towards their own goals. Your biggest competition, your only real competition is who you were vs who you’re becoming.
5. Progress motivates progress.
Praise is a wonderful thing; however, it didn’t much matter to me how much praise I received because I didn’t believe I was worthy of it. Matter of fact, I rather disliked praise because it made me feel quite self-conscious. Progress is what motivated me to keep moving forward…and it continues to motivate me. Thankfully I’m now in a space where I can accept praise graciously but it doesn’t motivate me. It’s simply icing on the proverbial cake.
4. I am not my body.
And neither are you your body. Our bodies are simply vehicles for our souls. They’re our temples or meat suits if you prefer. LoL There was a moment when I looked in the mirror and had no idea who I was anymore. That’s because I had become too identified with my body, too ego attached and thus, I lost connection with my spirit. When I realized this I was able to start the work of coming back into soul presence.
I could go on and on here and I have written extensively on the “fitness is a mind/body/soul gig” so if you’re interested please read some of my previous entries. But I promise you, if you can wrap your head around the idea that you aren’t your body you’ll find it much easier to work on. As if it were a car or pet project.
3. Transformation occurs in the mind and the body follows.
In order to change anything, first the mind needs to change. This took me a while to get my head around. I thought that once my body changed, everything would be great (see #7.) I was wrong. Get your mind firm first on how you’re going to change, what you’re going to change and why you’re changing it – then you can start the physical work.
2. Changing one’s mind takes work!
It’s work all day long. LoL and if you’re morbidly obese, chances are you’ve become enslaved to or ensnared by certain negative thought patterns about life, the world, food and yourself. Changing the way you think will be the hardest work you’ve ever done if you do it alone. So, as you begin this process, for the sake of your success, see a counselor in conjunction with your trainer. It’ll cost a bit of money, but your journey is worth it. If you can’t afford it; however, there are a ton of excellent resources on the web and on YouTube especially that you can use to assist you on the path.
1. You will learn exactly what you are made of.
This is something else I could go on and on about. Personally, I learned that I was made of a lot stronger stuff that I thought I was and truly, I’m still learning. Fitness is a process of self discovery but before you can start the process you first have to understand that you’re worthy of it. That was probably the most difficult part for me; however, once I realized my worth, I was off and running. Those setbacks will remind you of just what you are. Use them, not as crutches, but as spring boards to propel you forward. Keep moving forward. You’ll get tired. You’ll get worn out. You’ll get fed up…keep moving forward.
P.S. Happy Valentine’s Day ❤️❤️❤️