I wish I was…
I wish I had…
How many times in your life have the above phrases left your lips? I’m willing to bet that if you’re anything like me then you’ve probably said them more times than you can count.
I wish I was rich.
I wish I had a sports car.
I want a hot body.
In the south there’s an old saying:
Wish in one hand and sh*t in the other and wait to see which one fills up first.
LoL say what you want about the south but when it comes to folk wisdom, we can’t be beat.
And in the immortal words of Dusty Springfield:
Wishin’ and hopin’ and thinkin’ and prayin’
Plannin’ and dreamin’ each night of his charms
That won’t get you into his arms.
Sure, wishin’ and hopin’ is where you start. Those dreams are your motivation but how do you get where you want?
Start taking action now!
90% of aspiring entrepreneurs wished and dreamed to start a business and ended up quitting because they weren’t millionaires overnight or because someone told them their ideas wouldn’t work.
The 10% who succeeded rarely succeeded on their first venture but they retooled and tried again (and again) until it worked.
I’m willing to bet that nearly every obese person alive wished and hoped for a hotbod. They probably went into a gym and quit after a day or two because it hurt or because of sweat or because they were self conscious…and the 1 million other excuses. And trust me, I know excuses. I lived excuses for years.
So I’d sit and dream about what my life would be like if I had all those things I wished and hoped for: a hot body, money, success…
Those daydreams give us an “out.” They allows us to live our fantasies, if only for a few brief moments, and then we snap back to reality. For some people though, daydreams are enough to sate the hunger for more but what do you do when they no longer work for you?
You take action.
And the moment when you decide to act is the most crucial because it’s the moment when all those fears: of hard work, of success, of fighting for what you want come welling up.
Well, as George Addair said:
“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.
I don’t think anything truer has ever been spoken.
Fear is very useful tool but to the untrained mind it can be a monster. I’ve written about fear extensively and it always comes back up because it seems to me that nearly every decision of consequence we make can be reduced down as either coming from a place of fear or love. And if you think about it, I bet you’ll agree.
We want all these things for our selves and for our families but we have to be mindful of the risk taking an action can mean.
Sometimes the risk can jeopardize our financial stability. If it’s just you, maybe it’s worth it but if you have a family, maybe not.
But there is a way for you to take action that doesn’t require you to risk it all and it’s all about setting S.M.A.R.T. Goals.
I work in government management and we use S.M.A.R.T. Goals to help improve performance indicators for the programs we operate, for our staff and for our clients.
It’s a fantastic method of improving action, overcoming fear and getting measurable results so that the one who’s set the goal doesn’t feel like they’re flailing out in left field with no direction.
S.M.A.R.T. Goals are:
Now, because this is a health/wellness blog let’s look at some SMART Goals for your gym time.
All too often new gym goers walk into the gym with unrealistic expectations for their bodies and effort. Assuming you have a trainer, they’re going to mediate your expectations; however, if you don’t: 1. get a trainer or workout with someone who’s been doing it for a while and 2. use SMART goals.
A general SMART goal for a new gym goer might look like this:
- Specific-improve resting heart rate from 110 BPM to 70 BPM
- Measurable-measure resting heart rate at the end of each month of consistent exercise.
- Actionable-will require 1 hour, 3 days weekly of 50/50 cardio+strength training
- Realistic-Resting Heart Rate can be reduced to meet goal.
- Time Related– after 6 months of training.
This is just one example but you could just as easily set a SMART Goal for increasing strength or muscle growth or weight loss…any goal you dream of is achievable with this method.
SMART Goals break huge dreams down into manageable goals while simultaneously reducing anxiety and fear because they provide a clearly delineated path forward.
If you loose your way? No problem just go back to your SMART plan. Need to revise your plan? Do it. It’s yours.
Over the years, the SMART abbreviation has changed. I prefer the one outlined above but here’s a link to a SMART Goal Worksheet that you can use to help you meet your goals.
Stop wanting and start being. Take action.