When you reach for the stars, you are reaching for the farthest thing out there. When you reach deep into yourself, it is the same thing, but in the opposite direction. If you reach in both directions, you will have spanned the universe. – Vera Nazarian
Before I started my weight loss journey I had to answer an incredible question: “Am I worth this?”
It sounds simple, really. Am I worth this?
“Sure, yeah? I’m worth this.”
-“Ok, so what are you gonna do about it?”
“I’m gonna eat this bag of Cheetos and start tomorrow.”
Isn’t that how it usually goes, my big, beautiful friends?
We make New Year’s Resolutions…
We cry in bed because we feel like shit…
We get mad at people who encourage us to make a change…and then we cry some more because we still feel like shit.
Well, I’m willing to bet if you answer to the question: “Am I worth this.” Was a non committal, “Sure, yeah?” You were probably lying to yourself…
I know I lied to myself for years and every time I tried to loose weight I’d fail because I had decided, “No, I’m not worth this.”
Because I believed I wasn’t worthy it.
Because I was so identified with being a cute fat guy I was scared of what being anything else might mean.
Because our consumerist/beauty driven culture depends on us not believing in our worth.
Because we’ve told ourselves for years that we weren’t worthy…
Because we’ve been told that by our culture, by strangers, love interests, etc. we’ve come to believe it true about ourselves.
And what we believe is TRUE.
Everything you believe about yourself is true, for you.
Now, you could argue and objectivist’s view point but consider this, objective truths are just subjective truths that we’ve collectively agreed upon.
You could be the smartest, fittest, most beautiful person on the planet but if you don’t believe it, it’s not true, for you.
Matter of fact, I believe this is why steroids are still the problem they are in the weight lifting community because those guys and gals still don’t believe they’re worthy “enough.”
But when you start believing in your self worth, everything starts to change for you.
You begin working towards those dreams that were only ever dreams and your start making plans that you never would have planned.
And because your confidence is getting stronger you start doing things you never would have done.
You see, your self worth is directly proportional to the effort you put in.
It doesn’t mean you’ll “win” every time but at least you knew you were worthy of being there.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that all your dreams will come true, but at least you’ll know you gave it your best shot!
For far too long we’ve believed that Failure is the opposite of Success, my friends. And that belief is a lie.
Failure is the opposite of Honest Effort. And honest effort is always equal to success. It may not be the effort that wins a trophy but you showed up! And that’s half the battle but before you to even make the attempt you have to decide if you’re worth the effort.
And this is true for any and every thing that do – Be it loosing weight, lifting weights, applying for a new job, taking that audition.
When you say, “Meh, maybe tomorrow.” What you’re really saying is, “I’m not worth it today.” Your soul hears that shit.
So I’ll ask again: Are you worthy?
And yeah, I’m talking to you.